Monday, October 12, 2009

Home School?

There is something about being socially inclined that runs innate in the human mind. There is no question in anybody's mind that they want to be able to go out in public, and know that there are people out there who they can connect with. This connection is constantly built by encounters in a public setting. One who lacks such a setting will surely be severed with the sociality link, and fall into a dark abyss... One in which it would be very difficult to climb out of.

I believe that the biggest detriment to mankind is homeschool (followed closely by private and charter schools, but, that argument will be saved for another day). It is really quite a pathetic joke, and I will hereafter point out why I make such a bold, and belligerent statement. But, first, I must say that I have never met a child that was homeschooled that had ANY social skills at all. If you are one, or if you have ever found one... Please, let me know.

Reason 1- MOTHER: I remember the teenage years. I remember thinking my mother didn't know anything. Each of us passes through this phase. How could a mother think it was a good idea to keep her children inside, and that they would learn anything when they have that attitude, and she is the one trying to teach them. "If you don't do your chores right now, mister, I'm going to give you an "F" on your last test!" What good does that do? And for that matter, what do grades mean- what is there to work for.
In summary- homeschool is a cop-out for any sort of traditional work.

Reason 2- ANTI-SOCIALITY: Where on Earth would one learn to connect with someone besides their own family members if they are only spending time with them? Honestly, does that sound absurd to anyone else? Think about it- you were introduced at an early age to kids that you worked well with, and played well with; and that is where you learned those connection skills. How does one who never uses those skills become anything more than a very strange child?! You can't build a muscle that never gets used. And also, you cannot grow a talent that has never been planted. Opportunities have to be placed for said work to happen. If a talent of sociality is to occur, one must have social situations in which to learn those valuable skills.

Reason 3- LACK OF WORK ETHIC: Though Homeschoolers claim the "homework" clause, that really isn't true. They have no such thing. Homework doesn't exist because there is no way to enforce it. I have heard too many times that homework is done during the homeschool experience. Well where is the work in that? How does one develop good study habits, and work habits if they never do such things as homework? Homework, as miserable as it is, teaches each of us to do our best, to work to complete something, and then turn it in with pride. Some of us (like myself) may have missed that message until later, but at least we recognize the value of what happened... Instead of not having anything to put those skills to practice.

I have too many times stood in front of a group of homeschoolers, and tried to explain a simple idea, and had blank stares in return. Homeschool is an almost funny joke. I don't mean that to be rude, I support it with the above. There are too many things lost when a child is homeschooled. Homeschooling is not a viable option for education. Education isn't just book-smarts. It doesn't really matter how much one knows, when they can't relate to someone to share it.

7 comments:

  1. I saw you advertise on FB, so I came to check the blog out...

    I think homeschool is viewed negatively simply because the average person is an idiot, therefore, the average mother probably shouldn't attempt to single-handedly educate each of her children.

    However, I HAVE met several home-schooled children that have ten bajillion more social skills than any "normal" person I've ever met. Among these homeschooled families are some of my very own relatives. I have an aunt and a cousin who homeschool, and I believe the secret to their success (and they have been VERY successful) is community involvement and individual learning. My cousin takes her kids on educational field trips and has unique ways of teaching educational concepts in her home (she was a kindergarten teacher pre-marriage). My aunt applies the same ideas, but her kids are also heavily involved with church, community plays, soccer, and work. In a way, they have more opportunities to be involved socially since they do not have the pressure of teachers and loads and loads and loads of homework to leach away their time (and positive attitude...). A couple of these cousins began attending their local university around 16 and 17, and are still doing very well now at BYUi (or on their mission).

    It is essential that the parent be consciously prepared to help them achieve socially as well as educationally, otherwise they won't be prepared for college and the real world regardless of how much they "taught" them.

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  2. It can be done successfully, but I have seen failures and quite a few of them. I had a cousin's son who went to the MTC and didn't make it the first week because he couldn't cope in the environment that was so unfamiliar. My biggest pet peeve, though, is parents who use home school as a baby sitting service. It happens more than a lot of people would think. Also, I don't judge home schooling as successful just because they scores well on standardized tests or start college early. I met plenty of strange antisocial people in college.

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  3. True...I'll just say from a "personal" standpoint (i.e. have actually interacted with them) that these particular cousins are successful. Muy successful.

    So I suppose it goes back to intent? What is the mother's goal? Or does she actually have one? With homeschooling it is so easy to miss the mark, thereby shooting off in any direction except the one that counts. There is a homeschooled family on my street, and I'm not sure what I think about them. They ALL seems a smidge antisocial to me (except they are really involved with their church and politics)...not sure about them.

    Like I said, the average person seems to be an idiot, so I have little faith in the average mother embracing such an undertaking.

    Unless (I just had this thought)....I'll put it in the form of a question:

    (Assuming that the general opinion of home-schooling is negative) --Is home-schooling justified when the family lives within the boundaries of a notoriously wicked school district? (Think Babylon. Think Sodom. Think Gomorrah. Think literally).

    My answer is, why the heck do you live in that place? The school is reflecting the community, so why be there?

    Any thoughts?

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  4. The thing I'm judging on here is experience with any and all homeschooled children. I work with several homeschooled children, I've served in my ward with homeschooled children. I teach (in a public setting at the space center here in Utah, for more information go to www.spacecamputah.org) homeschooled children that come in for our programs. I have yet to meet one that can successfully carry on a conversation, or use common problem solving skills.

    And you are right, if the parent is qualified to teach, then good on them. However, you have to put your children in situations where they have to work and deal with other people, and problem solve, and make decisions. I believe the biggest detriment is when a parent continuously makes decisions for their children in that setting, because then there are no coping skills whatsoever.

    However, I did not, and will not assert that no homsechoolers on the planet are capable. I just, in experience, know that not very many are.

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  5. And to answer your question, Ms. Jeter. If they are living there, I don't think home schooling will do any good for people in that area... Because everyone around you is "wicked".

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  6. That is pretty true...but some are definitely more wicked than others. And some schools reflect that in remarkable ways. For instance, as a high school seniore I was interested in the Air Force, and I spoke to a few recruiters during the research process. I took the test for the fun of it, just to guage my "smarts". I missed one question. My little sister, who was 12 at the time, could have aced it. The man told me that a local high school valedictorian had to take it 5 times to pass it.

    Some schools just should not be attended.

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  7. I spelled "senior" wrong. I apologize.

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